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July 31, 2007

Television Really IS Good For You

Filed under: Ages 10-12 years, Chores — Chris @ 11:31 pm

or at least good for me.

My kids have discovered Hell’s Kitchen and decided that they love to cook.

Last night my 12 yr old son made a taco dinner completely by himself, including preparing all of the condiments that go on the tacos. Tonight he grilled… on the grill! And made a tossed salad.

I am afraid that I have perhaps died and gone to heaven.

If I had known that screaming and yelling and being abusive in the kitchen would make them want to cook I would have done it years ago. (Okay, not really.)

Tonight my 11 yr old son was discussing what he wants to cook for dinner tomorrow night. I hemmed and hawed and pretended like I wanted to cook dinner before finally acquiescing.  Because if their track record holds true as soon as you want them to do something, they no longer want to do it.

It shows that letting them help in the kitchen little by little as their abilities have allowed, has paid off.

Now, if there would be a cleaning show hosted by Chef Ramsy… my days of leisure could begin.

July 30, 2007

Little Helpers

Filed under: Ages 2-4 years, Ages 5-6 years, Children, Ideas, Work Ethic, parenting — Chris @ 11:18 pm

Sometimes we forget that our youngest children can be good helpers. I really hate shucking corn. It is just so messy.

CORN!

But guess what? My little kids love to do it. For them it is like unwrapping a present. My 2 yr old always seems surprised that there is corn inside, as if it is just pure luck. Each one he holds up and exclaims, “CORN!”

Toddler at work

And so the job gets done quickly. They feel like they had an important part in contributing to dinner. And they don’t even complain about helping to clean up all the corn debris on the floor.

They work

It is win win for all of us.

July 29, 2007

Home again, home again, jiggety jig

Filed under: Basics, Keeping It Real — Chris @ 4:43 pm

Navy Pier-Chicago

Had a great time at the conference. Connected with so many fabulous women. Learned alot, and realized how much I don’t know. Ate at fabulous restaurants, where both the quality of the food and the prices were shocking. Drank many fabulous glasses of wine, where each subsequent glass seemed to be better than the previous one.

And now I am preparing to re-enter my real life. The one that really matters. Where my importance isn’t measured in stats, hits, or comments. Where I am simply important for my mad snack fetching skillz.

July 25, 2007

without the weeds, there would be no lawn

Filed under: Ages 7 -9 years, Basics, Chores, Humor Keeps Me Sane — Chris @ 7:03 am

This past weekend my husband was lamenting the state of the front lawn. With the constant rain and the breaks of sun being filled up with baseball games, it had grown really long. Long as in it looked like we were living on a prarie, not a suburban neighborhood.

So we were having a “discussion” about mowing it. The front lawn is generally believed to me my job. I don’t mind. It is some extra exercise and I can’t hear the kids fighting over the roar of the lawn mower, so I am able to just lalala my way around the front yard.  Except that sometimes I just don’t have time.

My 8 yr old was sitting there listening in and suddenly said, “When will I be old enough to mow the front lawn?” He rested his chin on his hands, elbows on his knees.

I had to laugh. because all of the children have gone through this. They all want to do a chore until they are actually allowed to do it. Then suddenly it is not cool or fun anymore.

“When you are old enough not to want to do it.” I answered.

“I never get to do anything.” he cried.

My husband decided why not let him give mowing the lawn a try.

So I started up the mower and said, “Have at it.”

Each time I glanced up he was running around the lawn. A huge grin on his face.

The lawn, however, looked like a cat after someone tried to shave it with an electric razor. Someone blind.

Patches of grass stood up here and there; long strips of uncut grass made zig zag patterns across the lawn; right in the middle a big circle of foot high unmowed weeds. Clearly 8yr olds are not ready for the front lawn.

He flopped down next to me on the front porch steps, pushed his long blonde hair out of his eyes. “Well, that was easy. And fun. I don’t know why no one wants to do it.”

I didn’t have the heart to tell him that usually we walk back and forth in straight lines and not run around all willy nilly. But maybe we should. Maybe running around all willy nilly would be a much more fun way to cut the grass.

In the backyard. The neighbors already think we are odd.

July 24, 2007

leaving on a jet plane

Filed under: Just For Fun, Keeping It Real — Chris @ 3:26 pm

I am packing today for a 5 day trip. A trip sans children and spouse. I am speaking at the BlogHer conference in Chicago. While I am thrilled to be going, I am mired in the all the tasks that I need to accomplish before I leave at 5am bright and early tomorrow morning.

Finish the laundry. Put it away. Tidy up the kitchen. Make sure there is food. Put my daughter’s hairbrush and pretties where they belong or else her hair will will not be done at all while I am gone. Make sure the DVDs get returned while I am gone. Library books returned– do we even have any out right now?

And pack for myself, remembering the quart sized baggie liquid rule. Though I think I am just checking everything except my laptop. Mostly so I can complain about all the clueless people holding up my security check in line.
I don’t do all this prep work because my husband is incapable, far from it. In many ways he would be a better stay at home parent than I am. He loves to be outside “playing.” He loves to make fun foods (I have already been informed that Wed night is going to be bonfire bonanza– with all foods cooked over the backyard bonfire. And smores for dessert!)

I am not that fun. I am mostly okay with that. I can not compete with Fun Daddy.

I get everything ready for him so that it is easier for him. So he is free to be in the arena where he really shines. That of Fun Daddy. (He is also the one you should go to should you need anything sewn. Mama don’t sew.)

I would say wish him some luck while I am gone, but really wish me luck. Coming off of the Fun Daddy high is always difficult. “What do you mean there isn’t going to be non-stop fun all day long every day? What is this cleaning of the bathrooms of which you speak?”

Whenever I return home from a trip I feel as though upon opening the front door the soundtrack in the house changes from Cool and the Gang’s “Celebrate” to Elton John’s “The B*&%#* is Back”

July 23, 2007

moving on

Filed under: Children, parenting — Chris @ 9:27 am

This weekend was the final baseball tournament for my oldest son. They won. It was a great game. Filled with tears, cheers, and anxiety (me and the children)

This morning for the first time since March when baseball season began my husband and I did not have to co-ordinate our evening schedules. We stood there at the door for a second before saying goodbye, the time where I would usually ask, “So are you going to have time to stop by the house and bring him to practice, or should I drop him off?” or “Which kids have games tonight?”

It was only a second or two, during which I opened my mouth and then shut it.

“Heh, no baseball.” I said.

“Yeah,” my husband replied.

“Whatever will we talk about now?” I laughed.

*****

We said our goodbyes and I returned to the kitchen to my cup of coffee and my computer, but the exchange got me thinking.

How many times as parents do we do things, or say things to our children simply because it is the way that we have always done it? How many times do we keep doing something that isn’t working or makes no sense simply because it has become a habit? How often are we stuck in a parenting rut?

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” –Albert Einstein

I love this quote. It sums up my life.

What sort of parenting ruts do you find yourself stuck in? And more importantly, what have you done to get out of them?

July 19, 2007

so now it rains

Filed under: Children, Ideas, Just For Fun, Keeping It Real — Chris @ 11:31 pm

There go all my fun summer activities for the great outdoors.

Not only did it rain and thunderstorm today, but we had tornado warnings.  I don’t live in an area of the country that is known for tornadoes.  So I was a tad freaked out by it.   The sky got eerily dark and the rain was whipping around.  And did I mention that I was driving in my car during this?

But obviously I survived.  Even though I did drive up over my lawn in my haste to get home quickly.  But shhhh, don’t tell my husband.

I had a lot of work to get done today.  And all of us were feeling restless.  There was much bickering and whining (them) and yelling (them and me at them to stop yelling).  Finally I decided that it was one of those times that the only way to rectify the situation is to step outside of it and shake it up by doing the unexpected.

So I proclaimed it movie theater in the family room day, which sounds a lot better than shut-up and leave me alone for a couple hours day.

I went to our local video store and rented movies (five of ‘em, just in case it rains again tomorrow)  Then I went to the grocery store and bought candy and popcorn.  I spread our picnic blanket out on the floor in front of the tv,  popped the popcorn and put it into the cute movie theater style popcorn holders that we have.

I managed to finish what I needed to get done,  completely undisturbed.  Then I closed up my laptop to watch The Bridge to Terabithia with them.  Why didn’t anyone tell me how sad that movie was?

And so it was the unexpected sort of day for me as well.  I never planned on laying on the floor watching a movie with my children.  I thought I had far too much to do to be able to set time aside for a movie.  But I did.  And I am happy for it.

July 18, 2007

Bank Statements

Filed under: Allowance, Saving — Chris @ 10:47 am

Bank Statement

(click on photo to enlarge for ease of reading)

Some people have expressed a desire to see what the bank statements look like that we give our children.

This is a photo of one belonging to my 10 year old son.

Everything is itemized the way that it would be in a real bank statement. He received birthday money in addition to his allowance, and he made no withdrawals from his savings to buy things.

Withdrawals would be listed with exact expenditure and the date.

Additionally, we really do have a bank account at an actual bank where their money is collectively saved. Every week my husband transfers their allowances into the single account ($26.50 each week), adds in any additional money earned through extra chores or birthday money, withdraws expenditures.

This system of payment has been the best for us. No cash to lose. No trying to remember how much money each child is owed. Encouraging them to save and watch their bank accounts grow.

July 15, 2007

Top Ten Chores Kids Are Doing

Filed under: Children, Chores, Making It Work, Work Ethic — Chris @ 10:58 am

1. Wash dishes
2. Do homework
3. Read a book
4. Clean room
5. Make bed
6. Take care of pets
7. Set the table
8. Practice instrument
9. Help cook
10. Water plants

I was reading this list on the handipoints site this morning and wondered how everyone else’s children stacked up to these chores.

Collectively my children only do three of these top ten chores. We don’t have pets. The few plants that I do have that are clinging to life in spite of me, I water. Homework and reading I don’t really consider to be “chores”

What are the top ten chores in my house?

1) Unload dishwasher

2) Vacuum family room

3) Clean off breakfast room table

4) Sweep under table

5) Make your own bed

6) Straighten up mudroom closet

7) Mow lawn

8 )Carry groceries in from car and put away

9) Clean up all outdoor toys

10) Clean downstairs half-bath

Except for mowing the lawn, which is only done by my older children (10 and up), these chores are done by ages 6 and up. Children are amazingly capable if we allow them to help.

Though we did just have an incident at my house this past week where a child who was responsible for cleaning up the family room was shoving all the toys under the furniture rather than putting them away. I am not really sure why he chose to do this, it would have been just as easy to put them in their baskets where they belong. Not to mention the emotional stress he must have felt about doing something “wrong” and then getting caught. And then having to deal with the GINORMOUS pile of toysthat I dragged out from under the furniture and left in the center of the room for him.

I was really annoyed by it too. And my husband, having to bear the brunt of my annoyance, said “Well, it is your job to check up on them and make sure they are doing their jobs correctly, right?”

And then I killed him. Okay, not really. I grudgingly admitted that he was right and my annoyance really should be directed at myself. And realized that I do need to check up on my children, even if only doing random spot checks. Because they are children and it is human nature to take short cuts and slack off.

What sort of chores do your children do? And how do you make sure they are doing them properly?

July 13, 2007

sum-sum-summertime: ideas my children had

Filed under: Children, Humor Keeps Me Sane, Just For Fun — Chris @ 8:32 pm

Not necessarily endorsed by yours truly:

1) Frozen water balloon fight. (Ummmm, noooo. Also, OUCH!)

2) Get the popsicles out of the freezer, stick them to your tongue or lips and reenact the scene from A Christmas Story. You know the one, right? When the little boy sticks his tongue on the frozen flag pole. (After warnings that it might make your lip or tongue hurt, I said go for it. Your skin is being ripped from your body, not mine. Also, it was funny.)

3) Go to grocery store and climb as far as you can into the freezer bins (Leaning in is okay. But full body contact with the food inside the freezer is not. I know, so mean.)

4) Play keep away with hose. On jet. The object,as far as I can tell, is to try and get the hose away from the person who has it. The person who has the hose is allowed to spray you, trip you, shove you, really use any means available to keep you away. (Yes, mean mother again. After witnessing the first round of this melee in my front yard, I said no more.)

5) Have ice cream sundaes for dinner. (Sure, why not.)

the face!  yes, aim for the face!

On a positive note, the “scorching” heat wave here has subsided. But I know it will be back. And maybe my children will have some new innovative ways to stay cool. Preferably those that do not involve grave bodily injury. If they do I’ll be sure to let you know.

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