Comments on: Co-Ed Dorm Rooms, Good Idea or Not? http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/ Stories of Raising Responsible Kids Sat, 13 Mar 2010 05:48:56 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: tompson http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3579 tompson Sun, 27 Sep 2009 00:29:28 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3579 we need to realize that we are not sending little immature kids to college, we are sending adults away! we need to realize that we are not sending little immature kids to college, we are sending adults away!

]]> By: Jason http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3525 Jason Thu, 10 Sep 2009 19:13:26 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3525 No one wants to deal with the stranger looking at you in your undergarments, i dont care what gender you are, its uncomfortable. If this is such a good idea then why doesnt everyone go to the laundry mat in an apartment complex and do laundry in their underwear, creepy!! No one wants to deal with the stranger looking at you in your undergarments, i dont care what gender you are, its uncomfortable. If this is such a good idea then why doesnt everyone go to the laundry mat in an apartment complex and do laundry in their underwear, creepy!!

]]> By: Helen http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3334 Helen Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:52:10 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3334 As a real life, actual UChicago student (I know, right? It's like my opinion on this is...relevant!), I think the University made an informed and progressive decision about housing. While I suspect that most students will choose to live with individuals of the same sex--just as most students live with people of the same sex when they move out of housing and into apartments--this decision simply gives students, especially those who are gay, lesbian and transgendered, more options in their living situations. As a real life, actual UChicago student (I know, right? It’s like my opinion on this is…relevant!), I think the University made an informed and progressive decision about housing. While I suspect that most students will choose to live with individuals of the same sex–just as most students live with people of the same sex when they move out of housing and into apartments–this decision simply gives students, especially those who are gay, lesbian and transgendered, more options in their living situations.

]]> By: Brandi http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3332 Brandi Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:58:56 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3332 I seem to be in the miniority here, but I would. I don't think it should ever just be random Freshman being assigned to the same room, but since they have to already know each other and both specifically ask to live together I don't seen an issue with it. I probably wouldn't be keen on them living with their boyfriend/girlfriend, but friends would be fine with me. And I clearly understand that it wouldn't be for everyone. As for me, I have always had more male friends than female. Because my friends/roomates were older than me (and thus kept graduating and moving off into the real world) I ended up have a total of 14 roomates over the span of my 4 1/2 college years. And the best living arrangement of them all? A 5 bedroom house with another girl, and 4 guys. As the room arrangements worked out I shared a jack and jill bath with one of the guys. 3 of the 4 guys are still some of my best friends to this day (more than 10 years after I graduated college). I seem to be in the miniority here, but I would. I don’t think it should ever just be random Freshman being assigned to the same room, but since they have to already know each other and both specifically ask to live together I don’t seen an issue with it. I probably wouldn’t be keen on them living with their boyfriend/girlfriend, but friends would be fine with me. And I clearly understand that it wouldn’t be for everyone.

As for me, I have always had more male friends than female. Because my friends/roomates were older than me (and thus kept graduating and moving off into the real world) I ended up have a total of 14 roomates over the span of my 4 1/2 college years. And the best living arrangement of them all? A 5 bedroom house with another girl, and 4 guys. As the room arrangements worked out I shared a jack and jill bath with one of the guys. 3 of the 4 guys are still some of my best friends to this day (more than 10 years after I graduated college).

]]> By: amber of theambershow.net http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3331 amber of theambershow.net Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:20:09 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3331 The college isn't just pairing people up with RANDOM members of the opposite sex. Both parties have to request it! I want my children to live with whom they are most comfortable. Why wouldn't anyone want the same for their children? I don't understand the blanket "hell no" reaction. If my daughter's "bff" happens to have an "XY", of course they're going to think about living together at school. My gay son might feel more comfortable living with a lady. A more conservative daughter of mine might opt to live with a strange girl than a guy she knows. That's ok! A transgendered (pre-op) son (born a daughter) might want to live with another "dude" because that's how he sees himself. THINK, people, THINK! The college isn’t just pairing people up with RANDOM members of the opposite sex. Both parties have to request it! I want my children to live with whom they are most comfortable. Why wouldn’t anyone want the same for their children? I don’t understand the blanket “hell no” reaction.

If my daughter’s “bff” happens to have an “XY”, of course they’re going to think about living together at school.

My gay son might feel more comfortable living with a lady.

A more conservative daughter of mine might opt to live with a strange girl than a guy she knows. That’s ok!

A transgendered (pre-op) son (born a daughter) might want to live with another “dude” because that’s how he sees himself.

THINK, people, THINK!

]]> By: Melinda http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3325 Melinda Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:37:35 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3325 Definitely NO!! That is just asking for trouble. And really who wants that for their kid? Definitely NO!! That is just asking for trouble. And really who wants that for their kid?

]]> By: amanda http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3322 amanda Tue, 21 Jul 2009 00:29:42 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3322 it doesn't make sense in the terms of practical administration. it seems like a paperwork nightmare. boy and girl are a couple so they get a dorm room together, then boy and girl break up, now boy and girl don't want to live together anymore. i don't think anyone needs the extra work of letting students switch living spaces when they switch relationships. it doesn’t make sense in the terms of practical administration. it seems like a paperwork nightmare. boy and girl are a couple so they get a dorm room together, then boy and girl break up, now boy and girl don’t want to live together anymore. i don’t think anyone needs the extra work of letting students switch living spaces when they switch relationships.

]]> By: Lindsey http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3321 Lindsey Mon, 20 Jul 2009 22:42:30 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3321 I think the article you linked to does a good job of explaining why students would choose this option. I understand that most people would have an initial reaction of no no no no, but it seems to be implemented very thoughtfully. A woman would NOT be placed in a room with a man that she doesn't know, both students would have to request the arrangement. If a couple got married at 19 and wanted to remain in campus housing, this might be an option. I think the article you linked to does a good job of explaining why students would choose this option. I understand that most people would have an initial reaction of no no no no, but it seems to be implemented very thoughtfully. A woman would NOT be placed in a room with a man that she doesn’t know, both students would have to request the arrangement. If a couple got married at 19 and wanted to remain in campus housing, this might be an option.

]]> By: Maggie http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3318 Maggie Mon, 20 Jul 2009 20:42:41 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3318 Um, yeah, bad idea! I was on a co-ed floor Freshman year & loved it. But ROOMS?! No way! It's your one sanctuary! I lived with (and actually now live with) a guy in an off-campus apartment, which also is fine, because we have our own rooms (shared bathrooms)...but I can't imagine sharing a room unless you are a committed couple...and even then, that's not really appropriate for a college dorm... Um, yeah, bad idea! I was on a co-ed floor Freshman year & loved it. But ROOMS?! No way! It’s your one sanctuary! I lived with (and actually now live with) a guy in an off-campus apartment, which also is fine, because we have our own rooms (shared bathrooms)…but I can’t imagine sharing a room unless you are a committed couple…and even then, that’s not really appropriate for a college dorm…

]]> By: Haley http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/children/teen-years/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-3317 Haley Mon, 20 Jul 2009 19:44:58 +0000 http://www.handipoints.com/mommypoints/parenting/co-ed-dorm-rooms-good-idea-or-not/#comment-3317 I lived in and residence halls that were co-ed. None of them allowed co-ed rooms but all were co-ed floors. I lived across the hall from a linebacker who would walk down the hall to the bathroom with his towel around his waist. :) Some universities allow siblings (co-ed) to live together in apartments, some do not. I think this is fine. Many of the residence halls are moving from regular double rooms to suites where each student has their own sleeping room and shared living room and bathroom-- with this I think it is totally fine to have a co-ed suite. I lived in and residence halls that were co-ed. None of them allowed co-ed rooms but all were co-ed floors. I lived across the hall from a linebacker who would walk down the hall to the bathroom with his towel around his waist. :)

Some universities allow siblings (co-ed) to live together in apartments, some do not. I think this is fine.

Many of the residence halls are moving from regular double rooms to suites where each student has their own sleeping room and shared living room and bathroom– with this I think it is totally fine to have a co-ed suite.

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